Life has not been easy for me recently too many things have happened and now I only seek for peace and quiet and do not want to be bothered & disturb.
When it is over it is over, don’t pester and hang on
When things goes wrong, don’t finger point and blame others
When things goes wrong, it happen for a reason
When things happened, no point crying over spill milk
When a mind is set, it is set, no changes can be made
Learn from the mistake and move on
Be brave, do not look back and don’t even think of turning back the clock as it is too late
Do not hold on to the past, let it go in peace
Chances are not asked but given, don’t beg and don’t plead
Tears can wash away all sorrows and pains
Time heal all sorrows and pains
Leave the memories behind and don’t destroy what was left
Don’t pester, ponder and hang on when it is over
Stop dreaming and hoping when it is over it is over, get real
Face the reality bravely and be strong
What is the use of hanging on knowing that there is no future,
Why persist on a one sided affair knowing that it would not happen,
What is the use of persisting and wasting all the time knowing that will be no future,
When it is over it is over, don’t pester and destroy what is the remaining for a good memories,
How is the word that you should go on your life bravely, leave the past alone, leave the memories to rest, give peace and not war
Love is about sharing
Love is about giving
Love is about understanding
Love is about letting one go when there is no more love between two persons
Love is about allowing each other to find their own true happiness
Love is about give each other breathing space
Love is not a one sided traffic
Love is not about making or seeing another person suffer in pain
Love is not about insisting against other wish
Love is not suppose to be life threatening
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Friday, July 25, 2008
Voicing out my concern.
My voice of concern; an article which I contributed to Straits Times on 23 July 2008.
Monday, July 14, 2008
Life is Like A Book
Life is like a book
A book full of words
A book full of pictures
A book full of colour
A book of life can be boring and interesting
If my life is like book it would be;
Full of words – words that can heal and kill
Full of pictures – a picture tells a thousand words
Full of colour – colour of my life would be red, yellow, purple, blue and black.
Words;
Words that can heal; would be pleasant to the ears
Words that can kill; would be hurting to the heart
Pictures of my life would be;
A clown that filled my life with laughter
The sun that warms my heart
The deep blue sea stir up my curiosity wondering what goes on beneath it.
A room full of people talking, gossiping, arguing, fighting, exchanging views,
A bird flying for its freedom seem relaxing to me.
Colour of my life would be;
Red for vibrate, energy, passion, dangerous,
Yellow for happy, cheerful, warm, lively
Purple for romantic, peace, calm, harmony
Blue for lost, worries, anxiety, cold
Black for sadness, mystery, sexy,
A book full of words
A book full of pictures
A book full of colour
A book of life can be boring and interesting
If my life is like book it would be;
Full of words – words that can heal and kill
Full of pictures – a picture tells a thousand words
Full of colour – colour of my life would be red, yellow, purple, blue and black.
Words;
Words that can heal; would be pleasant to the ears
Words that can kill; would be hurting to the heart
Pictures of my life would be;
A clown that filled my life with laughter
The sun that warms my heart
The deep blue sea stir up my curiosity wondering what goes on beneath it.
A room full of people talking, gossiping, arguing, fighting, exchanging views,
A bird flying for its freedom seem relaxing to me.
Colour of my life would be;
Red for vibrate, energy, passion, dangerous,
Yellow for happy, cheerful, warm, lively
Purple for romantic, peace, calm, harmony
Blue for lost, worries, anxiety, cold
Black for sadness, mystery, sexy,
Monday, May 12, 2008
Motherly Figure?
If someone asked you “do you think she is beautiful, pretty or sexy” and you got the answer “she got a motherly figure maybe because she has given birth". Should I be happy or upset over such remark?
Motherly figure?? To me the question pose was asking about how I look meaning to said my appearances, your impression on the look and it is not about my personalities or characterizes. I got rather upset over such remark as the answers given was very irrelevant more like a generic answer towards entertaining that person asking the question and not being direct to the point not even to mention about sincerity.
It has never once come across my mind that I was beautiful, pretty or sexy but never ever have I think that I would have a “motherly figure”. I am very sure that I don't have the “to die for figure” but I cant image what a a motherly figure look like?
This really makes me very upset and keep me wondering, what have happened to me?? I must have look so FAT, UGLY and very OUT of SHAPE after given birth. Well at least there is one good thing, I have lots of love and care being a mother. This is rather weird for me, I am suppose to feel good, happy and proud about such remark but why am not feeling it instead I am feeling lousy and upset.
Motherly figure?? To me the question pose was asking about how I look meaning to said my appearances, your impression on the look and it is not about my personalities or characterizes. I got rather upset over such remark as the answers given was very irrelevant more like a generic answer towards entertaining that person asking the question and not being direct to the point not even to mention about sincerity.
It has never once come across my mind that I was beautiful, pretty or sexy but never ever have I think that I would have a “motherly figure”. I am very sure that I don't have the “to die for figure” but I cant image what a a motherly figure look like?
This really makes me very upset and keep me wondering, what have happened to me?? I must have look so FAT, UGLY and very OUT of SHAPE after given birth. Well at least there is one good thing, I have lots of love and care being a mother. This is rather weird for me, I am suppose to feel good, happy and proud about such remark but why am not feeling it instead I am feeling lousy and upset.
It is without a doubt that I am a mother now but I am still a woman after all. Which woman would not want to hear nice and beautiful words singing into their ears. All woman love the feeling of being pamper, appreciated, love, enjoy being admire, in every woman that has to be some vanity in us and it is only human nature to have such feelings, right?
Motherly Figure is just not what I am looking for as an answer! It is not me and it has never been in my dictionary under the category of look. Motherly Figure, what a vocabulary to use for describing me??? It is so upsetting for me.Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Changes are INEVITABLE !!???
Are changes good or bad and are they necessary? I think that is rather debatable right?
In most case and scenario the picture presented to us that changes are for the better, is this just another one of those marketing gimmicks? Changes can and will cause lots of inconveniences to many people creating more work to others as well. With that in mind most people are reluctant to make changes not to mention the willingness to adapt themselves to the changes as well. What do people do if changes are inevitable, most likely they will sit together and start moaning about the changes; what it was and used to be before and how it is now, etc?
My New L@@k
Took a day off yesterday and went for a hair cut. In need for a change, want a new look so I just leave it to the hands of my stylist, who I am so loyal to for the past 8 or 9 years! As always he does magic to my hair giving it a new cut added some vibrate colours to it. I love it and hope that with this new look I could relive the youthfulness look in me? Changes are not that bad after all.
Changes @ Work
Recently I have been rather busy at work, thou my boss is on annual leave I should be able to find more time out but it is not the case instead I am being “requested” to assist in other areas that is not part of my main job focus. I did ponder for a while and asked why am I being “requested” for the fact that I am still new to the company, will only be a year old next month. Was it purely an exploration of my mind since my boss is away on annual leave? Whatever the case was I have accepted the job with a positive attitude being negative don't really help in any case. Well to me there is nothing more to lose just keep busy in fact I would gain not in monetary but in the skills of knowledge that I can bring along with me to the next level.
Changes in Life
Think there will be times when we would want and love to have some changes in our life rather going on a routine lifestyle, which I am not saying that a routine lifestyle are bad. It is good to have a rountine lifestyle as it can cultivate disciple into our life but it can get rather boring at times as well.
Recently my baby girl has learns lots of new trick and it is only the start of a series of changes for the good and better of course.
CHANGES are not that bad after all. I think it is all in the mind set of every individual.
In a corporate world changes are inevitable. What I always believe is “How fast can I adapt myself to the changes” in order for me to survive in a man eating world and what I need to do. I would need to be on my toes and start moving consistently, just how FAST and if I want to be in or ahead of the game or just be a laggard and allow others to lead the way?
You decided if changes are good or bad.
In most case and scenario the picture presented to us that changes are for the better, is this just another one of those marketing gimmicks? Changes can and will cause lots of inconveniences to many people creating more work to others as well. With that in mind most people are reluctant to make changes not to mention the willingness to adapt themselves to the changes as well. What do people do if changes are inevitable, most likely they will sit together and start moaning about the changes; what it was and used to be before and how it is now, etc?
My New L@@k
Took a day off yesterday and went for a hair cut. In need for a change, want a new look so I just leave it to the hands of my stylist, who I am so loyal to for the past 8 or 9 years! As always he does magic to my hair giving it a new cut added some vibrate colours to it. I love it and hope that with this new look I could relive the youthfulness look in me? Changes are not that bad after all.
Changes @ Work
Recently I have been rather busy at work, thou my boss is on annual leave I should be able to find more time out but it is not the case instead I am being “requested” to assist in other areas that is not part of my main job focus. I did ponder for a while and asked why am I being “requested” for the fact that I am still new to the company, will only be a year old next month. Was it purely an exploration of my mind since my boss is away on annual leave? Whatever the case was I have accepted the job with a positive attitude being negative don't really help in any case. Well to me there is nothing more to lose just keep busy in fact I would gain not in monetary but in the skills of knowledge that I can bring along with me to the next level.
Changes in Life
Think there will be times when we would want and love to have some changes in our life rather going on a routine lifestyle, which I am not saying that a routine lifestyle are bad. It is good to have a rountine lifestyle as it can cultivate disciple into our life but it can get rather boring at times as well.
Recently my baby girl has learns lots of new trick and it is only the start of a series of changes for the good and better of course.
CHANGES are not that bad after all. I think it is all in the mind set of every individual.
In a corporate world changes are inevitable. What I always believe is “How fast can I adapt myself to the changes” in order for me to survive in a man eating world and what I need to do. I would need to be on my toes and start moving consistently, just how FAST and if I want to be in or ahead of the game or just be a laggard and allow others to lead the way?
You decided if changes are good or bad.
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Words Get in The Way??
COMPLIMENT or CRITICISM
Do these two words have the same similarity??
Compliment is a positive words mainly used for approval, respect or admiration
whereas
Criticism is a negative words mainly used for disapproval, passing a remark, opinion or judgment of someone or something base on his or her personal opinion.
What is the similarity of these two words => it can be used on PEOPLE targeting at their HEART / EMOTION.
It feels good to received and give a compliment to a person. What about the feeling of criticizing a person? Criticism is done out of jealousy, out of anger, condemning another person or was it just pure honest personal feedback?
I am just wondering why do people enjoy criticizing other people what is the purpose behind it and what do they gain in return? Is it really that fun hurting people’s feeling just to satisfy the evil side of oneself?
SORRY
I once met a marketing veteran who had told me these three words that caught me by surprise and it has remain with me for all these years.
Sorry is CHEAP! Shocked? Well I am at that moment. He goes on explaining to me what he meant by that: Why say sorry if you can prevent it, all it takes is to be a bit more rational and not jump to a conclusion without thinking and hurt others with one words or action.
I though about for it a while and come to this idioms "There is no point crying over spilt milk" another similarity?
Just my personal feeling; if we are upset or angry over things or people the more we should stay rational before taking the next step. Words are like knife piercing through the heart making it bleed.
I know it is always easier said than done but I believe a good amount of practices would perfect all flaws in the ugly human side of us. I am also aware that no human beings are made prefect BUT we can prefect the flaws to the bear minimum, right? If we put our mind and heart together and work it out and not let the heart overrule the mind.
Communication can break the ice BUT it can also break the heart. There is this very famous Mandarin proverb: "Sickness comes in from the mouth and Troubles come out from the mouth" it is just so true!
MANIPULATING
Is this a mind game or basically just to influence, control or insidious mainly angle to his or hers own advantage? It is such dishonest way of getting people to bid to ones liking or preferences. Is this another good fun thing to do to a human heart?
Is it necessary? Maybe yes to some because it gives them a sense of great satisfaction knowing that someone will listen and adhere to his or her command? What if that person finally realizes he or she is being manipulated? Will Friend becomes Foe? Or Love becomes Hate?
I am rather sad to witness a scenario of how a manipulator torturing her victim but I felt really wretch knowing that the victim is willing or just pure naive bidding to the ridiculous and outrageous requests and yet still adore her?
Is the victim being naive or enjoyed being torture menatlly? I really do not have the answer to that, just felt wretch and miserable having to know this incident.
I strongly believe in :
Karma; never do what you dislike to others. What goes around comes around, it may not be now but it may run down the blood line.
Friends are for kept and not for used if only people could truly understand this.
Relationships are for lifetime memories filled with happy and good moments and not tears and pains.
Do these two words have the same similarity??
Compliment is a positive words mainly used for approval, respect or admiration
whereas
Criticism is a negative words mainly used for disapproval, passing a remark, opinion or judgment of someone or something base on his or her personal opinion.
What is the similarity of these two words => it can be used on PEOPLE targeting at their HEART / EMOTION.
It feels good to received and give a compliment to a person. What about the feeling of criticizing a person? Criticism is done out of jealousy, out of anger, condemning another person or was it just pure honest personal feedback?
I am just wondering why do people enjoy criticizing other people what is the purpose behind it and what do they gain in return? Is it really that fun hurting people’s feeling just to satisfy the evil side of oneself?
SORRY
I once met a marketing veteran who had told me these three words that caught me by surprise and it has remain with me for all these years.
Sorry is CHEAP! Shocked? Well I am at that moment. He goes on explaining to me what he meant by that: Why say sorry if you can prevent it, all it takes is to be a bit more rational and not jump to a conclusion without thinking and hurt others with one words or action.
I though about for it a while and come to this idioms "There is no point crying over spilt milk" another similarity?
Just my personal feeling; if we are upset or angry over things or people the more we should stay rational before taking the next step. Words are like knife piercing through the heart making it bleed.
I know it is always easier said than done but I believe a good amount of practices would perfect all flaws in the ugly human side of us. I am also aware that no human beings are made prefect BUT we can prefect the flaws to the bear minimum, right? If we put our mind and heart together and work it out and not let the heart overrule the mind.
Communication can break the ice BUT it can also break the heart. There is this very famous Mandarin proverb: "Sickness comes in from the mouth and Troubles come out from the mouth" it is just so true!
MANIPULATING
Is this a mind game or basically just to influence, control or insidious mainly angle to his or hers own advantage? It is such dishonest way of getting people to bid to ones liking or preferences. Is this another good fun thing to do to a human heart?
Is it necessary? Maybe yes to some because it gives them a sense of great satisfaction knowing that someone will listen and adhere to his or her command? What if that person finally realizes he or she is being manipulated? Will Friend becomes Foe? Or Love becomes Hate?
I am rather sad to witness a scenario of how a manipulator torturing her victim but I felt really wretch knowing that the victim is willing or just pure naive bidding to the ridiculous and outrageous requests and yet still adore her?
Is the victim being naive or enjoyed being torture menatlly? I really do not have the answer to that, just felt wretch and miserable having to know this incident.
I strongly believe in :
Karma; never do what you dislike to others. What goes around comes around, it may not be now but it may run down the blood line.
Friends are for kept and not for used if only people could truly understand this.
Relationships are for lifetime memories filled with happy and good moments and not tears and pains.
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
Lost and Found
Pony, is a good friend of mine, who was lost two weeks ago. Not literally “lost”, she was out of town on a business trip. Pony has found her way home to Singapore last night, welcome back!
Who is Pony?
- We met in a forum and we have been cyber friends since 2005 but we have progress on to a higher level of friendship and not just in the cyber world!
- We have one similarity in liking; we adore people with BRAINS that function exceptionally well of course.
- We have a few things in common as well; the birth month and year of our babies. We share the same view almost all the time, I think or maybe not.
Pony and I have not chatted for almost more than two weeks but it felt like years! I sound bizarre right? Well I can only say that my cyber world has become quiet without her around.
Why Blog?
I was motivated by Pony in creating this blog after reading hers which she has mentioned my name in her blog, I was so touched that I almost cried out loud. . . just kidding.
Pony sees it as a good form of practice in expressing and writing, I totally agree with her on this.
So here I am polishing my expressive and writing skills. I will write more about what goes on in my life, the special highlight for that day plus the kind of people I have met along the way in my life.
Do stay tune if you want to find out more about SHA and her boring life.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
The NEW Love Of My Life
Just like any normal working day of my life, was in the office at 0815 hrs, start my computer, make my morning coffee, reading my emails, noting down the do list for that day then head for breakfast at 0930 hrs BUT that morning I wasn’t hungry just felt a little bloated.
An hour or two later on THAT day I could felt that a hurricane erupting inside my stomach. Told my boss I am feeling sick need to take the day off, called for a cab. Was on my way to the doctor when I throw up inside the cab, I was so embarrassed and apologetic to the cab driver!
That was the day I knew I am pregnant and from that day onwards my life has taken on a new dimension moving towards a more vibrate beginning.
After more then ten years in the work force, I stopped working just after the first trimester of my pregnancy. To some it may be the end of the world going jobless but it is definitely not in my case, it was only the beginning of a never ending journey to happiness.
I have devoted myself to my baby girl whom I love and cherish; she is a very special gift to me.
Sherilyn, my daughter; she has enter my life and filled it with lots of laughers, kisses, hugs, joys, worries, heartache, anxiety, excitements, and so much more than just one word or a sentence can make up for it.
Sherilyn, my daughter I will shower you with all my love, I will spend every moment of my time with you, I will see you through all little and big steps, I will care, support and ensure you that mummy will be there for you throughout my life time.
A promise has been made to Sherilyn on the day she was born;
"Mummy will never abandon you, will weather the storm with you at your toughest time, will guide you at your darkest moment, will shower you with lots of love that will keep your heart warm.”
I love you Sherilyn, my daughter was born on 02 September 2006.
An hour or two later on THAT day I could felt that a hurricane erupting inside my stomach. Told my boss I am feeling sick need to take the day off, called for a cab. Was on my way to the doctor when I throw up inside the cab, I was so embarrassed and apologetic to the cab driver!
That was the day I knew I am pregnant and from that day onwards my life has taken on a new dimension moving towards a more vibrate beginning.
After more then ten years in the work force, I stopped working just after the first trimester of my pregnancy. To some it may be the end of the world going jobless but it is definitely not in my case, it was only the beginning of a never ending journey to happiness.
I have devoted myself to my baby girl whom I love and cherish; she is a very special gift to me.
Sherilyn, my daughter; she has enter my life and filled it with lots of laughers, kisses, hugs, joys, worries, heartache, anxiety, excitements, and so much more than just one word or a sentence can make up for it.Sherilyn, my daughter I will shower you with all my love, I will spend every moment of my time with you, I will see you through all little and big steps, I will care, support and ensure you that mummy will be there for you throughout my life time.
A promise has been made to Sherilyn on the day she was born;
"Mummy will never abandon you, will weather the storm with you at your toughest time, will guide you at your darkest moment, will shower you with lots of love that will keep your heart warm.”
I love you Sherilyn, my daughter was born on 02 September 2006.
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